“The Five-Minute Check-In” — A Small Habit That Changes Everything

Last week, just before I stepped out of the car and walked into the barn, I paused. Closed my eyes. And said softly, “Spirit, I’m coming. Let’s check in.”

That moment — not more than five minutes — has become one of the most powerful parts of my daily rhythm with my animals. A quiet time to ground, to listen, and to open the door to true connection.

So often we rush in with an agenda: feed, groom, ride, repeat. But when we carve out a small, sacred pause before entering their space, everything shifts. I call it the Five-Minute Check-In, and I often teach it in workshops because it’s so simple — and so transformative.

Here’s how it works:

  • Sit in your car or outside the barn.

  • Breathe. Feel your feet on the ground.

  • Picture your animal in your mind and say, “I’m coming. Is there anything you want me to know today?”

  • Then listen — not for words, but for feelings, images, sensations.

You might not “hear” anything at first. That’s okay. It’s like visiting a friend’s house regularly — they start to expect you, trust you, and open the door more easily.

I believe these small practices are the seeds of deeper connection — and we grow them together.